You just broke up with the love of your life. If you are going to get your girlfriend back, you need to start thinking and looking at things differently. Continuing to do the same things won’t bring her back anytime soon.
I know you are feeling a lot of pain and anguish right now. Maybe you even feel a little desperate. But it’s time to leave your ego and pride at the door, my friend. You’re going to have to accept that your relationship is over for now.
This is the crucial first step in getting your girlfriend back. If you can understand this idea, you will be way ahead of most men trying to get her ex back.
Getting your girl back doesn’t have to be hard. It just takes a little self-control on your part and some basic human psychology. There’s a reason some couples get back together while others don’t. The difference is what actions you and your girl take after the breakup.
Let’s be honest here. Acting crazy, calling her all the time, showing up everywhere she does, will most likely backfire on you, my friend. All you’re doing is pushing her further away from you. This is a time not to listen to all your friends. While they are trying to help, their suggestions most likely won’t.
In fact, what you want to do is just the opposite of what you may instinctively want to do. Instead of harassing your girl, let her have her space. I know, this seems counterproductive, but this is where the psychology part comes into play.
What you need to do is let your girl know that you’re okay with the breakup. Let him see that you intend to move on with your life. Go out and enjoy your family and friends. Put a smile on your face and leave it there. Don’t be afraid that this will drive her away from her.
Have confidence on the outside even if you are not on the inside and show it. Confidence is something that women like in men and your girl will be no different. Nothing will pique your girls’ curiosity faster than if she thinks you’ve changed. Again, a bit of simple human psychology, but that’s sometimes all it takes to get your girlfriend back in your life.
Once you’ve set the stage, so to speak, comes the hard part. You have to stay calm and steel yourself. When she tries to contact you, you have to resist the urge to pick up where you left off.
This means not picking a fight and digging up the past. Let those things go. You have to if you really want to get your girlfriend back. Take things slow, start fresh and show her the new you. She may surprise you how she reacts to her.
It may sound silly, but this is the time to woo your girl. Think of it this way, if you were dating a new girl, what would you do? Why should it be any different with the girl you’re trying to win back?