“I miss my girlfriend. How do I get her back?” Does that ring a bell? Is this the question that’s burning you from the inside out?
Breaking up sucks! That is a euphemism when the separation plan is not yours, but your ex’s. If he catches you ending things, you may react on instinct rather than a tried-and-true plan.
Avoid major mistakes to get your girlfriend back
Some guys handle a break up by doing everything they can think of to get an ex girlfriend back. This could include buying jewelry, sending flowers, begging and pleading, calling all of her friends, or even harassing her. It can get ugly!
Then there are the men dealing with a break up trying to forget. They start drinking more, using other girls to “fill the void”, partying all the time, spending money recklessly. Obviously, this only adds bigger problems to the misfortune of a broken heart.
Then there are the lazy guys who give up too easily. They would rather deal with heartache than do whatever it takes to win her back. These guys don’t want to be broken, but they’re not willing to go through hoops to fix things. But what if she’s worth a few hoops?
Get your girlfriend back the easy way
Lucky for you, great lessons have been learned from men who handle a breakup the wrong way. You can avoid common mistakes AND you don’t have to humiliate yourself in the quest to get back with your girlfriend. With a proven plan, you can get him running back to you. Here are some expert tips:
- Stop calling for now. You don’t want to chase her or push her away, so start with the simplest step of all: don’t call her. This may sound easy at first, but it can be very difficult when your deepest male instincts tell you to DO SOMETHING to win her back. Your happiness is at stake, right? Well of course it is. But this plan requires you to start without action. In those romantic Hollywood movies, you see the guy chasing after her girlfriend, saying all the right things to make her relent. Well, in real life, chasing after a girl who just told you to die can get you a restraining order. How about approaching things this way? Step aside for a moment, allowing her room to cool down and time to think about the relationship. Unless you’ve been screwing up the whole time, she’ll remember the good points and start to miss them. Also, she will start to miss you.
- Make superficial changes. If you get a little carried away in the relationship, some minor changes to your appearance could help you boost your confidence and win your girlfriend back. You may not realize it, but women really do notice these things. Start with something small like a nice haircut, a new jacket, or a nice pair of pants. Maybe even a teeth whitening treatment that will improve your smile. Next, kick things up a notch by drinking less beer and avoiding late-night pizza. Lift some weights (nothing major), join a gym, or play basketball to help tone your upper body. You don’t have to become a heavyweight, but you can create noticeable changes quickly with just a little extra effort.
- Wait for her to come to you. Once you’ve given him space and used the time to improve your appearance, have him come to you. If you have mutual friends or live in a small town, people are sure to bring news of your changes to your ex-girlfriend. If not, you can take a few small steps to orchestrate it yourself. All you need to do is socialize regularly, go places you both love, find ways to meet your friends. You can also post photos on social media, just showing that you feel good and look your best.
Your ex girlfriend will freak out imagining that you are better off without her. She’ll wonder what’s changed, why you’re having more fun than ever, and whether or not you miss her. She will want to see you for herself; and she will find it increasingly difficult to resist the urge to call you. Once she makes that call or text, you’re into her! Now, you just need to say the right thing to make her realize that you are the perfect man.