We all want to be good parents and learn good parenting skills. Parenting is a full-time job, and sometimes it can feel like MORE than a full-time job, but when it comes down to it, we need to recognize that as parents, we’re going to make mistakes. But one of the keys to good parenting is recognizing those mistakes, accepting them, and learning from them for the next time.
There are four A’s that point to the traits of good parenting.
Availability
Be available to your child. Yes, these are hectic and busy times, but you should never be too busy for your child, especially when they need you. Don’t just be available when they say they need you, because there’s a good chance they won’t come along and say that. Offer yourself to them and let them know that you are available to them. Let them know that they are important to you, as they should be. Set aside a reasonable amount of your time each day to spend with them. Don’t just give them “leftovers” when you’re tired from a day’s work, but give them quality time. That could be just watching their favorite TV show with them, reading a book to them, or taking a short walk with them. It doesn’t necessarily mean spending money on them, because one of the best things you can give them won’t cost you a hundred: your love for them, where you show it and they can feel it and know it.
Appreciation
The most powerful drive toward good behavior in children is to be appreciated. When a child does well at something, express your appreciation to her. When he does something nice for you, show him your appreciation for it. Everyone likes to be appreciated, and children are especially sensitive to this. Appreciation also helps them make that mature determination of what is right and wrong, based on how appreciated they feel. The more you appreciate his good deeds, the more his behavior will conform to what you want and expect.
Keen
We all want to be loved, especially children. They are constantly looking for ways that they can be loved by you. You are their focal point and they want to please you by their very nature. You must be aware that love is the foundation and foundation of a lasting relationship.
acceptance
Everyone wants to be accepted, and children are no different. You should do everything possible to show your unconditional acceptance. This provides them with a level of self-esteem and helps keep their self-esteem level high. It also gives them a sense of security in the act of acceptance. If you, as a parent, can’t accept them, then no one else will, and they realize it.
Good parenting is a skill that is learned over time and with mistakes. Learn from mistakes and set guidelines to be the best parent you can be.