As the summer months approach, activities that are unique to summer remind us how important it is to plan throughout the year. With their children out of school, many parents seek out programs and activities to reinforce academics, spark interests and passions, or supplement athletic talents by enrolling them in day camps and away from home to keep them from sitting in front of the TV or computer all day. summer, especially if both parents work.
Before you and your spouse begin mediation, it is vital that you both know your children’s interests and where you want to go. You need to know this because there is a lot of work involved in choosing a program and the costs associated with these programs.
Researching youth summer camps is one of the most important things you will do when planning for your child’s safety. Remember, the Internet is your best friend in locating a camp and thoroughly researching its references, staff, facilities, and reputation. Google is the answer to an anxious parent’s prayer. The first step is to get a complete list of all full-time and part-time staff, your vendors, and consultants. Research everyone on the list. Beware of people who change jobs frequently or who have been associated with illegal or unethical practices.
But who is going to do this job? Who will provide transportation? Who is going to pay for the camp? What about recitals, fathers days or performances? Parents can alternate events or put aside differences and be there for their child, but these decisions must be made in mediation and included in your divorce agreement. In the event that your children currently have no interest in day or away camps, remember that you can go back to mediate to modify your agreement.
There is an important consideration when thinking about camping. Some children are not comfortable being away from home or in new social situations, especially after a divorce. Talk and listen to your children about this topic and follow their example. Nothing can be as damaging as forcing your child to go to camp, even if she feels that once she’s tried it, she’ll love it. Post-divorce, with family dynamics changing so much, it’s important to let your child define her changing role in the family and “getting kicked out” can undo all the hard work you’ve done to restore security and self-esteem.
Some kids look at the wide variety of programs available and see opportunities to indulge their interests and spend time learning and socializing with like-minded youth. This experience can build confidence and independence. If you feel your child is interested, encourage him to try new things.