What’s got the Bad Boys attraction?
Many women have said that they are attracted to bad boys. If you wonder why then read on.
The typical bad boy is
* cocky
* Arrogant
* put first
* He is not attentive to the needs of a woman.
* Does what he wants when he wants to do it, regardless of what others think
* Acts like a loose cannon
* Show off your masculine sexuality
*Not remotely a “nice” guy
* Uses women for sex
* Feels like he’s at the top of the mating chain. An alpha male, so to speak, if you’ve watched the Discovery channel.
Ask any girl what she likes about typical bad boys. Many women will reply that they never know what to expect when a “bad boy” is around. They find it challenging and see bad guys as safe people. The bad guys know what they want and they go after it. They are never boring. They are strong, aggressive, independent and self-confident. Women feel safe around him. Some women like the idea that maybe “she” can fix it.
When I asked some women what they liked about Bad Boys, they responded with things like:
Love and sex is stronger when you have intense emotions. The good guy is like taking Amtrak, while the bad guy is like a roller coaster. Good guys can be manipulative. Sure, they are always nice to you, but it’s just to get others to be nice to them, and that’s not real or natural for lovers. There is no challenge in the nice guys. Women like a challenge and want to be able to reform a bad boy. It’s more flattering for a bad boy to like you. It’s more special that a guy treats most of the people he meets like idiots, but he treats you well.
Another said this about bad boys:
The last guy I was with was kind, gentle and respectful of my needs and gave me everything I wanted, and never disagreed with me. I HATED IT!
The guy I’m with right now is all of these things… but he’ll put me in my place when I need him. I find that very often I need to be put in my place. He’s not afraid to tell me I’m wrong. That I’m being a brat or just being ridiculous. And even if he complains and tries to get my way, he won’t give up if he really believes he’s right.
I need a takedown and drag fight from time to time. well, maybe not literally, no one wants to get hit or anything, but there are times when I need to argue.
You can’t argue with someone who always says “you’re right, princess. Whatever you say, angel.”
It’s good to be pleased, sure; But how can you respect someone who kisses your ass? Yuck, give me a boy to stand up to me, and I’ll be his forever.
Someone else’s comment was
I’m attracted to bad boys for the most masculine of reasons (I like to think my man can protect me if need be), but also because super nice guys I’ve met get caught up in the status quo and end up being very lazy. the relationship and their own lives. I would love to find a super nice guy who can embrace the excitement of everyday life and relationship, but I haven’t found him yet.
Someone who can be labeled as a bad boy is masculine. He has a lot of confidence. Women find this trait of extreme confidence very attractive. It draws them to trust in me. It has nothing to do with appearance. It has to do with your attitude and your beliefs. It attracts women on an emotional level and when emotions and logic come together more often than not, if the emotion is powerful enough, the emotions win.
Don’t do these things below to be a bad boy:
Be sticky.
Be afraid to let her know that you find her attractive.
Neglecting to have a life outside of the relationship.
Be too easy to get, keep her intrigued.
Sacrifice your hobbies, life, friends, work, etc. for the relationship
Be nice with the expectation that you will get something in return, that is manipulative.
Be too strong or try too hard to impress.
Be possessive.
Be submissive: Women want a man who is tougher and stronger than they are (but that doesn’t mean they want someone to dominate them).
Establish yourself in your ways.
Be a pushover.
The things you have to do to be a bad boy:
Have fun.
Show self-confidence.
Be energetic.
Relax and take up space
Make eye contact with everyone
project your emotions
Be passionate.
lead others
Have a Playboy type attitude, playful and fun.
Have a sense of adventure.
Be ambitious and lead
Have a life and hobbies outside of your relationship.
Be a protective manly type (not macho or misogynist).
Respect yourself.
Be exciting and unpredictable.
Be a challenge.
Give your own opinions.
Show strength.
Realize that your feelings come from within, not from without.
Generate feelings within yourself first for others to follow
One of the things we teach at Attract and Date is to take on the traits of a bad boy, an alpha male, and take the good parts without the bad. Most women with high self-esteem don’t want anyone to abuse them. They want someone who cares about them too. The combination of a bad boy, idiot with a sensitive and affectionate boy is the atomic bomb of seduction. It’s the best of both worlds. The man who believes in himself and goes after what he wants, but still allows himself to take care of others, ranks high on a scale for many women.