It hurts like crazy when someone you care about suddenly stops calling and responding to your texts. You were in a relationship with him but he didn’t have the courtesy to say something and just disappeared? It’s amazing, I know. So by sharing some insights on why men disappear instead of splitting up, I hope your mind gives you some peace of mind, you can stop wondering why this happened, start moving on with your life, and find out more about what you can do to prevent it from happening again …
- Men disappear instead of separating because they want to avoid conflict and the drama of the breakup. He knows that you will be hurt by the breakup, which will likely end in tears or a fight. And men generally have no idea how to handle a woman who is emotionally out of control. You may even fear it. Therefore, I would rather disappear and avoid you, rather than face the drama.
- Another reason a man will disappear instead of telling you that he wants a breakup is because he desperately wants to avoid being asked “Why are we breaking up?” Most men cannot specifically understand their loss of interest in the woman they used to be very attracted to. And if he doesn’t understand it, how can he explain it to you? I would have to lie … would it really be better?
- Men will also disappear instead of parting because he doesn’t want to tell you the real reasons for your parting. Very often, the reasons a man decides to break up are not the same reasons a woman would end a relationship. He instinctively knows that you may not understand his reason. Also, there is no way I can help you understand its logic either. Maybe he knows the reason he’s not attracted to you … but he can’t tell the truth because he’s too cruel. Do you really want to know that he thinks you’re not pretty, boring, etc.?
- He has made a firm decision and does not want to discuss it with you. He predicts that he may try to talk him out of his decision, but knows that nothing he says will change his mind. So since it is a foregone conclusion, he thinks there is no point arguing why he will no longer see you.
The most important thing to know is that his actions have made it clear that your relationship with him is over. And while it hurts, you can be thankful that it happened now, rather than letting things drag on any longer.
While there are “logical” reasons why a man disappears instead of breaking up, it is not an excuse for his immature, irresponsible, and hurtful behavior. Fortunately, the end of this relationship means that you have the opportunity to find a man worthy of your love, who will treat you with respect and appreciate you. But you will need to know how to attract and retain such a man if you want to have the relationship you’ve always dreamed of having.